Story by Daniel
We
hear about it every day, it's always in the news and they make us
wonder if it's normal for any one to be gay. Some say it's devilish,
others say they are psychic. The fact remains that even in a country
like Nigeria, they have existed, and are existing, no matter how we try
to lash them with our tongues, kick against it or criticise them.
Can
you tell if a man is gay by looking at him? Some people say that you
can. There is a certain way that a man stands, sits, walks and dresses
that is typically considered 'gay.' Commonly, it is the flexed hand,
feminine twitch in the walk, and a feminine lean (with the hip sticking
out to one side) when they stand, but most times, it will be so hard to
tell if a man is gay because he may not act like the above, he may just
be like any other guy.
It has also been said that there is a
particular look within a gay man's eyes that tells you he is homosexual.
This look in the eyes is something that is very difficult to actually
describe, and only some people can actually see this 'gay' look in a
man's eyes.
Some people think that it's possible to tell if a man
is gay by his interests. An interest in hair, make-up, and fashion are
often considered as feminine or 'gay' characteristics. There are many
confirmations of gay men in these professions however, not all men in
these professions are gay. Some gay men have 'normal' manly jobs. Others
say they can tell that a man is gay by the sound of his voice. The
truth is that many gay men do have softer, higher pitched, more feminine
voices. Of course, there are muscular, very masculine men with deep
voices that are gay.
Is there really any way to tell? It depends
on that person. If they are trying to make a point about their sexual
orientation, it will be obvious. If they are not, it will probably be
more difficult to tell. There are signals within the gay community that
help gay men find each other. Perhaps it takes one to know one.
Otherwise, some straight people have a sort of sixth sense when it comes
to spotting gay men.
Here are a few signs you should be aware of to know if your partner/friend/brother/ colleague might be gay
……he loves to wear clothes that are too tight and too "trendy".
"Gay
men don't need words to communicate their availability for sex 'hook
ups,'" "They silently broadcast the news by showing off their lean, hard
bodies in designer clothing label.
……most times, you catch him
having non-verbal communication with other men, which you may find
unusual -- a look, a touch or hug that lasts a little too long or has
undertones of intimacy.
…..he is in possession of pornography
depicting men engaged in sex acts with other men (videos, magazines,
photos stored on his computer).
……when he talks, he uses a lot of
feminine gestures like rolling his neck, sucks his teeth, folds his
arms when he gets mad and just acts more like a lady.
These signs are not scientifically proved but they do definitely help keeping you aware and prepared, just in case.
…..Gay
people hiding inside the closet are usually very vocal about their
distaste and hatred for gay men. While it seems a little counter
intuitive, there is a reason why they do it. Because they don't want to
be caught or be suspected that they are members of the third sex, they
would cover their true identity by blatantly expressing their rage
against gay men. They also tend to overdo this; thus, they become harsh
gay-bashers.
….Many women like him, but he doesn't care about them.
. ….He could have a girl friend or a wife but he spends more time for his male friend.
….. He tells you that you can not understand him really.
…… He feels there is nothing interesting with women.
…… He loves beauty very much. (that's why most gays are in the fashion industry).
…... He is a sensitive man.
…. He will try to show everyone that he is manly.
….. He spends much time to take care of his facial, skin, outfit, hair, fingers etc.
…..even if he has a girl friend and manages to have sex with her, he usually prefers it from the back (anal sex).
…..Buying
or receiving expensive, intimate, or overly personal gifts from other
men ……he keeps unusually high percentage of male friends who are gay.
Warning…..these
are just LIKELY SIGNS, it is not 100% established or scientifically
proved so in case you find your friends/lovers/brothers in any of these
categories, hey wait, don't attack yet, a man may be like any guy next
door and still be gay, and he may behave like one, while he is not!
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